Being a Godparent

Becoming a Godparent

Congratulations on being asked to be a godparent: they are very important people! We know that your friends or relations will have thought hard about this. They have chosen you to be a special person in their child’s life, someone who will offer encouragement, prayer and support for the child, and help them discover more about the Christian faith as they grow up.

What does being a godparent involve?

As a godparent you have a special role. It’s about helping a child to come to know God, encouraging them in their spiritual life and supporting them in their membership of the local church.

You need to be at the Christening where you will make promises to help bring them up in the Christian faith. It’s a role that will grow over time, as your godchild grows up and develops their own faith.

Is it a big responsibility?

It is. Have a look at the questions you will answer in the Baptism Service. Take some time to think through the commitments that you make when you answer them. But don’t forget that the church can support you in encouraging and praying for your godchild. Being asked to be a godparent is a good opportunity to think about your own faith. Godparents must have been baptised themselves, and it’s best if you are also confirmed. Baptism or Confirmation preparation can help you with your own questions about the Christian faith. It will also help you support your godchild in their own faith. If you have any questions at all, why not speak to your local vicar or other Christian that you know.

Does being a godparent mean I’m a legal guardian as well?

No. Your role as godparent is a spiritual one – to encourage and pray for your godchild. Being a legal guardian is separate from being a godparent.

What should I give as a christening present?

The most important gift you can give your godchild is your time, your interest and your prayers. You may want to mark the Baptism by giving a special gift. Godparents don’t have to buy expensive gifts. A simple meaningful present is a good choice – maybe something to be used at the baptism, or a gift to be kept for later.

What happens in the service?

All of you will be made welcome, and the regular congregation will make promises to support and pray for the child, parents and godparents. At the Baptism itself, the vicar will ask the parents and godparents to bring the child to the front of the church or to gather round the font. Before the baby is baptized, the vicar will ask you to declare that you intend to do your best as a godparent. The vicar asks you to say that you are ‘prepared to walk with the child in the way of Christ’ and will help them take their place in the church. The vicar will make sure it all goes smoothly and that everyone knows what to do and when to do it. Ask it there will be a rehearsal or other preparation you could get involved with.

What do I do next?

Both you and your godchild will get more out of your relationship if you keep it alive. Children love to get letters, postcards, emails, text messages. Why not send a small gift on the anniversary of the baptism to show you care about this special relationship? Keep in touch, and as they grow older they may be able to ask you their questions about life and faith… and that’s really special.

What is Confirmation?

Hopefully, later on your godchild will want to make his or her own declaration of faith at a confirmation service. At a Confirmation service your godchild confirms the promises you made for them at Baptism. It’s a very special time for both of you.

How do I pray for me and my godchild?

Take a few moments to remember your godchild. You might like to light a candle or look at a photograph. Here are two prayers which you might find helpful:

Lord God, I pray that you will guide and help me in being a godparent.
Give me your wisdom and your love.
Help me to be a good example of Christian living
And help me remember my precious godchild [name]. Amen.

Heavenly father,
Thank you for the precious gift of [name]
And for all the joy that she/he brings us.
Be with her/him on her journey through life
So she/he may come to know our Lord Jesus Christ
As Saviour and Friend. Amen.